Since pop culture has been around, it’s portrayed the average creative person as the quirky lead, the misunderstood hero, the moody lover. This kind of treatment is what birthed the idea that artists are passionate lovers and writers are romantic partners. But is there any truth to this conception? Are creative people generally better at the whole love thing? Let’s scrutinise this closely.
Firstly, how would you define a creative person? Is a creative person someone who has a creative profession, like a writer or musician or artist? Or is it a more flexible term, for people who have the ability to apply some form of creativity in the many aspects of their lives? To quote Dumbledore, “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” We shall assume creative people are the ones that choose to cultivate their abilities to be creative in their professional and personal lives.
Let’s take a look at some of the most famous creative people throughout history. It’s not rare to hear about creative people being in tumultuous relationships. Take the disastrous relationships of Sylvia Plath and Ted Hughes or Joan Baez and Bob Dylan as examples. Among the few creative couples that stuck it out till the end are Jonny Cash and June Carter, who despite all the conspiracies around their lives and deaths, remained by each other’s sides until the end.
Nupoor, a 24-year-old musician from Mumbai believes that while creative folk are more intense lovers, they aren’t better than most people in this particular fact. She says,
Being an artist and creative person, […] we tend to think of our lovers as muses. And somewhere we project our own expectations on them. And that can hamper a relationship because it may differ from what your partner is actually capable of.
Similarly, an anonymous 27-year-old photographer from Mumbai who believes that creative people actually don’t live more intensely than other people, says,
This question essentially comes from a notion that artists live life more intensely in general, which I don’t think is true. […] Creative people can have the most one track minds.
Creatives of the world have many envious attributes. But being better at relationships is not one they possess. While many creative people may have an intense way of expressing themselves, it’s a faulty assumption to think that they feel emotions more intensely than others. Your creativity may not have anything to do with your ability to be emotional or exist and thrive with another person’s psyche in the equation. Like Jaanam, 25, from Mumbai puts it,
Some of the most creative people can be really messed up and abusive (to themselves and/or their partners) and hence difficult to be with. But then again, there are those who are just as good to their lovers. I don’t think being creative necessarily makes you a better lover.
So does your creativity affect how you exist in the relationship? Perhaps. But does it determine whether you will thrive or fail in it? Probably not. If, as a creative person, you’re having doubts abut yourself and your ability to be in a healthy relationship, visit that Dumbledore quote again. Let us know what your thoughts are!
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